You have to read if you want to write, it’s essential. Not only to grow as a writer, but to know that you’re not alone; there are others who share your wounds and your joys. It’s important that you find them and let their words touch what you thought you could never say.
"…and this made me think about the men I’ve tried to connect with and how I perform apathy so well yet am secretly giving so much of myself (or at least I think so) to these lost causes, to people who never really let me in and who I am inevitably never completely vulnerable with. we talked about (un)doing aloofness, we talked about covertly investing so much time and energy into our relationships with others only to come to terms with the fact that these people, these men, don’t bleed for us in the same way we bleed for them. in fact, they don’t bleed at all. we are constantly searching for the poetry in people, for an erotic energy, a creative drive, a spiritual dimension, and it just isn’t there. I told JB that I recognize how fucked-up I am, that we’re all fucked-up, that no one is perfect and everyone has their own host of problems. I also told JB that a person who lacks poetry/eroticism/creativity/spirituality will always be ugly to me. I’m interested in people who feel things and aren’t afraid to share that with me, with us, with the world. Kanye was right. feelings really are the only facts."
After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises …
After a while you learn…
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your garden and decorate your own soul,”
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
Jorge Luis Borges, from “You Learn” (via emilyh0pe)
Wherever you may be, whatever you may be doing, find the things in your life to truly appreciate and do exactly that. And if, my goodness if, you should find yourself alone, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and give thanks to the voice inside yourself, the you that you have fought so hard to become.
—Tyler Knott Gregson
stop romanticizing the idea of becoming so dependent on another human being that you cannot function adequately without their presence goodbye
"You know, all that really matters is that the people you love are happy and healthy. Everything else is just sprinkles on the sundae.”
I have thrown away
all the clothes
you left behind,
the jewelry that
is still tied to you
and burned all of the
memories that are
keeping me form leaving.
If you were here,
you’d wonder how
I managed to fit
my entire life
into only one suitcase.
If you still loved me,
you’d know that my heart
that was too heavy to lift.
- © 2013 Maza-Dohta
that was too heavy to lift.
“I don’t owe people anything, and I don’t have to talk to them any more than I feel I need to.”
It’s Kind of a Funny Story (via wzll)
All any of us can hope for in terms of expectations are honesty, but be prepared, for that is rare.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
All you can do is hope that person can understand why you feel the way you feel.
They may not necessarily agree with you, nor do they have to, but at the very least, try to surround yourself with people who make the effort to understand you.
Be emphatic about expressing empathy, but always alwaysremember your worth.
Another persons inability to recognize your innate value should never diminish the importance you place on retaining it.